Social Media: A forum to expand our minds or strengthen our already narrow views


In recent months, three particular topics debated on facebook have led me to question how social media is influencing our views. Initially, I thought social media would contribute to entertaining dialogues and opportunities to learn more from “friends” (facebook friends anyway) who are similar to us, but may share a broader range of perspectives. In recent months, however, the topics on social media (e.g. Duck Dynasty, Miley Cyrus, and Exercise Mom) seem to be resulting in more polarizing views than ever before, and why is this…why do we feel the need to fully support Miley, Phil, or Exercise mom or conversely crucify them via social media? My guess is that life is much easier when we can categorize our surroundings and view others in dichotomous terms. Why are we so afraid to hold awareness that both sides of an argument could be credible?

(Disclaimer: I too felt the initial urge to choose a side on these arguments because this is how our brains work – classifying information, joining “teams” with individuals who are similar to us --- from an evolutionary perspective – this allows us to survive right?) 
Example 1: Miley Cyrus
My initial reaction: Miley’s performance contributes to the objectification of women’s bodies. I’m against viewing women’s bodies as objects. This sends a negative message to young girls.
BUT – I also have to acknowledge that Michael Jackson grabbed his crotch for years without catching this much flak from the general public. What is with this double standard?
 
Example 2: Phil Robertson

My initial reaction (after finally reading the article by GQ): His statements could be interpreted as racist, homophobic, and supporting the denial that white privilege exists. If the producers of the network don’t want this view representing their network and further contributing to such harmful views, it should be their right to take this stand.

BUT – I also have to acknowledge that this man is a self-described “Bible thumping redneck” from Louisiana – What would someone expect this man to say (in a private interview – not on live television) about same sex relationships considering this context. His views are grounded within the context of his religion, and if I want to support and affirm DIVERSITY OF ALL TYPES – doesn’t this include an individual’s religious views? 
 
 

Example 3: Exercise Mom

My initial reaction: I was absolutely infuriated by this – why? Because this woman claims to be in recovery from an eating disorder herself and she sends a message shaming others for their lack of dedication to their bodies?! Maybe others have discovered that their bodies are only a “part” of who they are rather than what they want to be defined by.

BUT – I also have to acknowledge that we are all entitled to define our own values, and perhaps this woman is living a life through her dedication to exercise/balanced eating which is less disordered than what she previously experienced. She is the only one that can answer if her exercise is obligatory or if her eating is restrictive…and she doesn’t owe that explanation to me or anyone else. I felt bad for the comments where other mothers shamed her for dedicating this much time to her body – what other things do we dedicate our time to as mothers? Our work, keeping a clean house, trying to “appear perfect” or totally devoted to motherhood? What makes these pursuits more valuable?

The Point:

1)      I realize that my experiences of growing up in the South and acquiring an education in the North have influenced the way in which I can relate to multiple sides of both arguments. If this is the case, could your background influence the extreme or balanced view you take on these issues?   

2)      Cognitive flexibility is perhaps our greatest tool to helping us overcome many challenges we face today (look at our government) – but yet we cling to extreme views (liberal vs. conservative) rather than looking for common ground or new solutions.

3)      Our brains like to classify information and “choose a side” – pay attention to when this is helpful and where this may create blind spots in understanding yourself and others.

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